Life for the most part is good, quite good, really. Loving wife, great kids who have now given me five grandchildren. A job that allows me not only to use the skills I have acquired in 16 years as an accountant, but to expand on my duties, and to do it for a church, no less, where I can have some impact on people's lives who need it, instead of devoting myself to making rich people even richer, as my past positions have had me do. And yet...
There is this sense of discontent. Or boredom. Or the lack of any really deep connections outside family. And it has dragged me down to the muck before, to the point where I almost lost everything. And in the past couple days, I feel it welling up in me again. But I feel myself drawn to the siren call, even though I know deep down that it cannot have any good end. But I am an addict. Addicted to the "buzz" of a potential new relationship, no matter how unseemly, no matter the cost, either financially or emotionally. No, not just a relationship, because I haven't the time and patience really to invest in that. The thrill of imagination.
A very good friend of mine, Donna, with whom I had some wonderful on-line conversations, and with whom I was so much in love...she ultimately pulled the plug on things my disappearing...once said that I was a driver who very much liked the car I've owned for several years, but wanting just to test drive a different model once in awhile. What an exquisite metaphor! And so true!
There are times I keep that desire tamed, actually, it's been quite awhile since I've felt this need. Usually I'm pretty darned content with my life, and I seem to grow more adverse to change the older I get. But sometimes...well, I don't deal with idle time very well. And out of curiosity, I look, and I like what I see...which stirs my thoughts...which fuels the fire....which turns my heart.
St. Paul spoke of a "thorn in his side", which I imagine is some weakness that he constantly struggled with. We all have one, I believe. And it's not about chocolate chip cookies; it's about something deeper than that. On the surface, one might think mine is a preoccupation with sex. But I don't know that that's it, although a lot of elements of that are there. Because, really, for me, at my age...with all the concerns about performance I have, and acceptance by the partner for my less than "Clooney-like" body, I may in fact, be quite ambivalent about sex. It's more the connection. And as much as a driver, I would take no joy in test driving a car I don't find attractive, I still seek a connection with someone whose attributes are the opposite of mine...young, attractive, fit, etc. So while it's not about sex, per se, it IS about sex.
So, where do we go from this point. I don't know...